Your feelings are important to me because you are important to me. These are the words I would love to hear spoken to every child, women, and man. Too often we deny, suppress, and bypass our own and others' feelings. The emotional body is rich with feelings of all kinds. When we don't acknowledge the emotion present we are unable to access that part of ourselves. We stuff down the indicator (feeling) that is giving us information to move in the direction we would like to go. The unfelt feelings begin to run the show in certain aspects of our lives. They might begin to act out, sabotage, or use substance as an escape.
Some children and adults are more in connection with emotional than others. In any case, we all have a spectrum of feeling hurt, anxiety, grief, shame, anger. When we give ourselves or others the safe space to allow feeling we are gifting the rite of expression. This gift teaches self-acceptance, self-trust, and honors wholeness. Our relationships flourish and have greater depth when this is part of life.
The emotional health industry is huge. People are often medicated and institutionalized. The current paradigm fails to integrate the wholeness of our innate feeling nature in a way that works for us. The emotional work I have personally done over the past ten years has been a pivotal place of my healing, to allow myself to not be okay and to unwind through the process, bringing myself with support through my own need to feel felt and all the pain that blocked the joy. My life was so much easier once I recognized that I needed to feel what was uncomfortable. Feeling the uncomfortable places feels good. Moving the emotions at time, when needed expressing, It is much more painful to keep these places under wraps and stuck!
Feeling the emotions doesn't mean we blame others or attack them. It means we listen or ask for someone to hold a space for us to hear the pairs of us that have been unheard. It doesn't mean we let those places run the show because they are hurt, It means we hear their voice, acknowledge it and tend to it until it feels safe enough, loved enough, and heard enough to grow out of the old patterning. Unfelt parts of ourselves can create stagnancy and they are not who we are. WE are so connected to the source of life. We are capable of so much more than we are often led to believe in this culture. We are vast beings of love and enormous potential. WE move through life as co-creators and as relational beings connected to source inside and out. When we unpack our emotion and open ourselves, life in all our relating is dynamically more connective, supportive, and we create from the truth of who we are.